So this week is National Fertility Awareness Weeks here in the UK. 1 in 6 couples have trouble with fertility. 1 in 6. Did you know that?
Never in my wildest dreams did I ever think id be in that position. That I would be a statistic like this. Those years I was on the pill. Those times I was paranoid id fall pregnant when it wasn’t planned. The time I took the morning after pill because I was drunk, went to bed without taking my pill, and didn’t actually realise until a couple of days later. Que me crying at my hubby 18 months into our relationship that we needed to get it, and panicking until my period arrived. Turns out I don’t work anyway so I needn’t have worried.
You can recap my story in a previous blog post called Why I’m here….
Since IVF I have had friends from school and since school message me thanking me for talking about infertility and our journey. Asking for advice. Asking if something is normal. Girls who have felt so alone, and so overwhelmed by everything. Some have been hung up on something the read online like ‘best sex position to fall pregnant’ or even worse ‘what day to have sex to make a baby girl…’ Ladies and gentleman, neither of these have any scientific fact. It’s quite obvious what to do sex wise, and as for making a baby girl, it’s all a game of chance!
You name it I’ve tried it.
- Baby aspirin
- Soy Isolfavones
- High dose folic acid
- Angus Castus
- IUI with Progesterone
- Pre seed lubricant
- No alcohol
- No caffeine
- No harsh chemicals
- Veggie diet
None of them worked for us. Clomid and IUI showed ovulation but nothing ever came of it. Not even close.
I class us as one of the lucky couples. We tried for 5 years before we fell pregnant with Daniel via IVF. In that time we were lucky enough to not have to experience the pain and grief of a miscarriage or a failed IVF cycle. IUI did turn me into a crazy when it didn’t work, but there was no embryo, no life, just a chance.
Everyone is different, and will try different things. Some down to what money can buy, some down to views, and some down to what the actual problem is. A good friends sister-in-law who had been through IVF gave me some advice which I did take and tried to stick to, especially after our embryo transfer. This was not to use harsh chemicals, such as perfume or deodorant. Nicola has been interviewed this week as part of NFAW and you can read one of them here . Another lady who has embarked upon an IVF cycle using only natural products is Jules Furness who is undergoing IVF with an egg donor, you can read her story here.
Tomorrow i will post my routine of what i did when we were undergoing our IVF cycle.
Its nice to be back, C x.